As a director of admissions who taught calculus and coached football in 1962, I had a crisis of conscience when I realized I was part of a competitive educational system valuing certain abilities that blocked the full development of the unique potential of students.
(Incidentally, decades later, I checked up on both students. The bright student had struggled through a succession of jobs and unfortunately never connected with success or fulfillment in his life. The “plugger” became a noted engineer, had started a family.)
2. Describe your concepts of 'character culture' and the 'five words'.
The founding mission of Hyde Schools was to honor the quote: “Every individual is gifted with a unique potential that defines a destiny.” The means to do so is through the development of character and principles: “Courage, Integrity, Leadership, Curiosity and Concern.” The present culture in most schools is routed in achievement, which can and often does indulge a student’s lesser instincts, such as bullying, stealing and cheating. Conversely, a character culture encourages our best selves and it creates a positive peer culture, where every student is invested in not only the best in himself or herself, but in others’ best, as well.
3. How do these admirable concepts translate into day to day teaching? Are your faculty required to follow these precepts? Yes, our faculty is an integral part of helping students understand their full potential through the development of their character. We believe that character is taught by example; it is inspired and cannot be imparted. We cannot pour it into our students, rather we can help each other draw it out of one another. Teachers play a critical role in that they learn the power of sharing their challenges, strengths, and struggles with students and they work toward applying the principles in their own lives in the same way that they ask their students to apply them.
What you want for them you must first uncover for yourself. Your own personal growth as an adult will be your true legacy to your children – and will outshine all of the successes, talents, or material possessions you earn.
As Carl Jung said, “Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on children than the unlived lives of their parents.” So, live a little; take some learning risks in front of your child; do something each day for pure joy; and ride your own coattails, rather than your child’s.
You know what they are. And, if you don’t, ask someone you trust, who loves you, and believes in your best. Your child knows you want what’s best for him/her, but the proof in your commitment to your child’s best comes in how you approach reaching it for yourself.
Like any job, you must know the duties and responsibilities that go along with it. If you don’t know what they are, get help from someone who does. Most of the unproductive issues we get into as parents stem from the conflict between the role we want to play in our child's life, rather than accepting the role we need to play.
The big picture of raising children is done with the actions, routines, and practices that make up a lifetime of memories and habits. Often, the value of these actions is seen looking back at one’s upbringing.
We believe in a family-school bond, with teacher-student-parent working together as a team. There is an ongoing national conversation taking place about how to involve parents in their children’s educations in a positive and productive way. Research tells us that when parents are involved in their children’s educations, great things can happen. Hyde Schools comprise both private boarding schools and inner-city, public schools. We’ve had an educational model in place for four decades that involves parents in their children’s educations, one that has successfully turned out generations of graduates prepared for college and life beyond, whose lives and families have been profoundly impacted in a positive way.
To begin our educational system with the family, and to build on America’s heritage by helping each child develop his/her unique potential. Too many schools are focused on tests and achievement. At Hyde Schools, who you are matters more than what you can do. If we can address and embrace the whole child—the successes, failures, challenges, gifts, fears, family—we would be a better country.