4 Things to Know Before You Choose a Private School

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4 Things to Know Before You Choose a Private School
There are way more than four things to know about private school. But this will get you started.
Actually there are many more things to know about private school than the four items I have chosen. But this will get you started. For most of us the idea of sending your child to private school begins with that nagging feeling that she's very bright and needs the very best kind of schooling possible. So you start exploring your options. That leads you to web sites. And it also raises many questions. So the four points I am going to expand on below are really affirmations of what you probably already knew anyway.
Private schools are not ranked.  As you explore schools on the web, you quickly realize that there is no way to rank schools. It's perfectly normal to want to send your child to the 'best' school. But how can you identify that school if there is no ranking system? First of all, let's deal with the reality of private schools and ranking. They cannot be ranked. Why? Because they are unique. Take the 400+ boarding schools we have in the U.S. Each one is different. Not better. Not worse. Simply different. Their locations, their facilities, their curricula - all different. The commonality is that they offer an excellent education.
You can compare programs, course offerings and a host of other factors using our checklists. Checklist for Comparing Schools: Administration and Faculty and Checklist for Comparing Schools - Curriculum and Instruction are designed to keep all the important points organized. Once you identify what your requirements are, then matching a school with those requirements is the next step in the process of choosing a school.
At this point you will realize that ranks are not important. Finding the best fit is. Get the fit right and you will achieve one of your most important goals: making your child happy. If the fit is wrong and she is unhappy, that's not the result you want.


There's a private school for virtually every need. Since there are private schools for virtually every need, you need to make a list of your requirements very early on in the process. If your child is old enough, involve her from the beginning so that she thinks that going to private school is her idea. Perhaps you were just thinking of a local private high school. But as the two of you start looking at all your options, you find yourselves looking at boarding school. Don't panic. Add it to the list and work through that list logically. Same thing if she decides that field hockey is important to her. Find a school or two with great field hockey programs and add them to the list.


What should be on your list of requirements? Academics trumps everything else as far as I am concerned. What's offered, how it's taught, the educational philosophy and so on. If you begin the school selection process early enough, you will have plenty of time to read up on the different curricula and educational philosophies out there. Get the academics sorted out then you can safely move on to the other important components of your child's educational experience which are sports and extracurricular activities.


There's a private school for virtually every budget. If you are thinking that shopping for a private school is kind of like going to the supermarket and just buying anything you want and not worrying about what it costs, for some people that is true. But most of us have to live within a budget. And so it is with private schools. The difference is that you can identify a couple of schools which offer everything you are looking for. Then go visit the schools. Meet the admissions staff. If everything clicks, part of the formal application process will be an application for financial aid.


If finances are a major hurdle, depending on your situation a dozen or so schools will give your child a completely free education. So, don't think that sending your child to private school is an impossible dream. It's much more possible than you think. The secret is to be open and honest about your situation and ask lots of questions.
But wait, there's more! There are a handful of tuition-free schools. They were established years ago by generous benefactors.  And schools like the Cristo Rey schools offer drastically reduced tuition.


You should use a consultant. I have done it both ways. Yes, we thought we could choose the right school for our eldest daughter. All by ourselves. And this was before the Internet existed. So that meant lots of letters and visits. Of the three schools to which we applied, she was accepted at only one. Fortunately for us, it was indeed the right school. Daughter did well and was happy. So were we.


The second time round we hired a consultant. The late Hugh Silk had taught at Collegiate in Manhattan and at The Masters School in Dobbs Ferry. He knew schools. And people. And so much more. He gently nudged us away from schools which were an impossible stretch and advised a mix of schools which included a 'safe' school - one we knew our child would get into. The other two schools were slightly tougher by degrees. But she ended up getting two acceptances and a waitlist.
Consultants know what they are doing. For the amount of money you are about to spend on your child's education, doesn't seeking professional advice just make good sense?


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