Why Did You Select That School?

Why Did You Select That School?

The decision to enroll a child in a private school is deeply personal, influenced by factors like educational philosophy, faculty expertise, and individual student needs. Some parents seek rigorous academics, while others prioritize arts programs or small class sizes. But beyond rankings and reputations, what truly matters when making this choice? By exploring the motivations behind different families’ school selections, you can gain a clearer picture of what’s most important for your own child’s success.

One of the first things a parent says when she speaks to me about private schools is something along the lines of "I want my son to go to such and such a school." When I diplomatically ask why she is interested in that specific school, the answer is usually, "because I heard it is a really good school."

• That is a starting point in determining which school your child should attend.
• However, there is much more to the process than merely expressing an interest in a school because you heard it was a good one.

So, why don't you and I work our way through that initial consultation? Hopefully, it will help you refine your private school search process. Ideally, it will help you find a school that meets your requirements as well as what your child needs to flourish and be happy.

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What kind of school are you looking for?

Understanding what you are really looking for is a critical part of any private school search process.

Start at the beginning and apply a couple of filters.

• The first filter asks what type of school are you looking for. Day or boarding?
• With thousands of private schools here in the United States, as well as hundreds more in Canada and the United Kingdom, using this filter dramatically reduces the number of schools for your consideration.
• You have to look at many schools before you find the one that's right for you.

Let's assume that you have decided on day schools.

• The next step is to apply several more filters to the day schools available in your area.
• Does it matter if the school is a religious or non-religious school? If issues of religion are important to you, then look for schools that handle religion to your requirements and expectations. If your faith really matters to you, find a school or schools to teach your child as you want her taught.
• We raised our children as Episcopalians. They attended Episcopal or non-denominational schools. That worked for us. Determine what works for you.

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Another filter we can apply is the size of the school.

• Some parents prefer that their children attend a small elementary or high school with 150 students or less.
• Others want their children to attend a large school. The term 'large' is relative, of course, in the private school world because even schools offering PK through 13th grade usually have no more than 1,200 students overall.
• You can find data about grades shown and the size of a school's student population here on Private School Review.

Yet another filter is the style of education.

• Are you looking for a traditional style of curriculum and teaching with testing and grades?
• Do you want your child to take AP courses and SATs? Is the IB Diploma Programme important to you?
• Or are you thinking of a progressive education? I
• f you are looking at elementary schools, then Montessori, Reggio Emilia, and Waldorf are examples of progressive schools.

Click here for a list of progressive high schools for you to review.

One last thing about these filters: you can move them up or down your list of filters, except for the first filter concerning the type of school.

• All the other filters can be applied in any order, depending on your requirements.
• Determine which filter is more important to you and move it up as that requirement becomes a priority.

This video from Our Kids offers suggestions on how to choose a private school for your children.

Why are those requirements important to you?

After filtering schools according to type, religion, size of school, and style of education, now is an excellent time to review these results/ Depending on what day schools remain on your list, you may want to tweak the list.

• Perhaps a non-denominational school would work, after all.
• Or on second thought, that larger school could be ideal because it offers so many more programs than the smaller school you were thinking about.
• Take time to confirm that the schools on your list match your needs and requirements.

Tell me about your child.

Understanding the way your child learns is the next step in this process.

• What are her strengths? What are her weaknesses? What is her favorite subject?
• Make a candid assessment of your child's academic strengths and weaknesses. You know her better than anybody.
• Then, review her academic record, i.e., her transcripts. transcripts.
• he transcripts and your assessment will match up for the most part.

What activities and athletics does she enjoy?

• What activities does she enjoy?
• What is her favorite sport?
• Are there any health issues that we need to consider?

Answers to these questions will give me a clearer picture of who your child is. This helps you and me determine which school will be the best fit for her.

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How can we find a school to meet your requirements?

Now, we go back to the beginning.

• You already mentioned a school that you thought might be a good fit because you had heard that it was good.
• Now that you have applied the filters that we discussed above, is that school still on your list?

If so, the next question is whether we think your child stands a good chance of being accepted.

• If the school is competitive or very competitive, your child better have solid academic transcripts and excellent test scores.
• Competitive schools will have many more applicants than they have places.

How can you determine how competitive a school is?

• Ask the admissions staff.
• They will happily tell you that they have 45 lplaces in next year's class with 100 applicants, if indeed, their admissions are competitive.

What are the next steps?

• Complete the admissions testing.
• This testing varies from school to school, so understand which test your child must take.
• Is there an admissions deadline? Or does the school have rolling admissions?
• Do you have another school or two on which to fall back?

This is particularly important when you are applying to a competitive school. It makes no sense to put all your eggs in one basket.

If you need financial aid, complete those forms as well. Don't forget to request transcripts.

• Then, download the application forms or create an account if the school handles their applications online.
• Complete all of your paperwork as soon as you can if the school has rolling admissions.
• Have everything completed and submitted well before the admissions deadline if there is one.

Jeff Knox explains prep school admissions testing in the following video.

Conclusion

Every family’s private school journey is unique, shaped by personal values, goals, and priorities. Understanding the diverse reasons behind school selection can help parents make informed decisions that align with their child’s future aspirations. Whether it’s academic excellence, specialized programs, or a nurturing community, the right school should empower your child to thrive. What motivated your decision? Let’s continue the conversation and share insights together.

What was the most important factor for you when choosing a private school? Share your story or ask your questions in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!

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