Getting Started

As you begin thinking about private schools, you will add schools from various sources to your initial list of potential schools. That’s fine. Accept all suggestions and advice in the early stages of your search for the right school or schools. Friends will suggest schools which their children attend. Family will mention schools that your uncle or aunt attended. And so on. Finally, you will explore on your own. Private School Review is a great place to start because the site is devoted to private K-12 schools. The following screenshot gives you an idea of the number of schools within a fifty-mile radius of East Longmeadow, Massachusetts. (I selected that area because I am familiar with it as I have family there. Also, it is not a major urban area.)

After exploring schools and including all the other suggestions you will receive, you will most likely end up with a list of 5-10 schools. Now, this is where the private school search process becomes tricky. Why is that? Simply because you have to whittle that long list of potential schools down to a more manageable list of 2-3 schools. Selecting a school is not like buying a watch on Amazon. It’s a lot like buying a house. And just as with buying a house, you have to really like the house. You also have to convince yourself that it meets all your

What follows is a fictional interview. I wrote it to illustrate why some parents chose a specific kind of high school education for their child. The account is fictional to the extent that the parents I am interviewing in this article do not exist per se. However, the scenarios, facts, and questions about private schools are ones that I have dealt with countless times over the years. They are real. Hopefully, you will find the answers in this interview both helpful and useful.

Helen, why did you consider sending your child to a boarding school?

My husband and I thought about sending our daughter to boarding school. Convincing her that boarding school would be the best option was a major challenge. However, with the help of our educational consultant and a couple of close friends whose children currently attend boarding school in Vermont, we were able to show her the incredible value a boarding school education offers.

What clinched the deal was the vast array of extracurricular activities which the schools we visited offered. We live in a very affluent area of Connecticut. The public schools are highly rated. But honestly, they offered fewer extracurricular activities than most of the boarding schools we reviewed. Our daughter is an avid swimmer and field hockey enthusiast. The athletic facilities and grounds at most of the schools we visited were superb. They contained state-of-the-art equipment with professional athletic staff supervising their programs. That was very reassuring to us. Our

Private schools are often seen as exclusive institutions with a reputation for rigorous academics and select admissions criteria.

• But beyond the surface, they offer a diverse range of educational opportunities tailored to individual student needs.
• From specialized programs and extracurricular activities to financial aid options, understanding the full scope of private education helps parents make informed choices.

This guide breaks down every essential aspect—from A to Z—so you can confidently navigate the world of private schooling.

A - Applying to a private school

• Applying to most private schools has become infinitely easier in the last 10-15 years.
• That's because you can apply online at most schools.
• When schools don't have online applications, they usually have all the application forms you need online so you can download them easily.
• You can also apply to many schools via the Standard Application Online.

B - Be aware that diversity is an important part of private schools in the 21st century.

• Yes, back in the 1950s and 1960s, you might have been able to say that private schools were elitist.
• At least, that was the general public's perception of private schools.
• This perception, of course, was reinforced by the media.

In the 21st century, private schools have made diversity and tolerance the center of their mission and philosophy, as most schools seek to prepare their students for life and work in a global community.

C - Competitive schools

• Many parents have grand ideas about which

You have begun the process of choosing a private school for your child.

• You have done a bit of reading about the reasons for sending your child to a private school.
• You have listened to the suggestions and recommendations of family and friends.
• You have explored dozens of school websites.

None of this is particularly difficult to do. It just takes a lot of time, right? Not exactly.

Here are five reasons why you might be looking at the wrong schools.

1. They don't offer the kind of curriculum you are looking for.

• Think carefully about what is taught and how it is taught in each school.
• Does it align with your approach? Do you want your child educated this way?
• Review curricula before you create a shortlist of schools to visit.
• The school's curriculum, how it is taught, and the quality of the teaching should be at the top of your checklist.

The school's educational philosophy is an essential requirement to examine as you go about choosing the right school for your child.

Listen to the Head of the Math Department at Nichols School in Buffalo, New York, explain the school's philosophy about teaching math specifically and teaching in general.

What makes this part of the process a bit daunting is that private schools are unique.

They won't all offer the same courses. They most certainly will not approach teaching them the

As you think about sending your child to private school, there are so many choices to consider that, for most of us, we shut down. It is simply too much to deal with all at once. That is the point of this little essay. I don't recommend dealing with all those heavy-weight questions in one pass. Take each one and work through it systematically from beginning to end. Then move on to the next question. In other words, break the project into bite-size pieces just as you do with any big project or challenge in your professional life.

Use your tablet or smartphone to record your ideas, thoughts, and questions. Google Drive, OneDrive, or Dropbox will help you share your findings and data with interested parties, such as your spouse and trusted legal and financial advisers.

OK, let's get to those big questions. Each one needs to be discussed and reviewed thoroughly. The results of your discussions will impact the next issue.

Boarding school or day school?

This fundamental question needs to be sorted out first. Why? Because the answer to it drives everything else in so many ways. I can hear some of you thinking, "Boarding school? I would never think of sending my child to boarding school." Indeed, you may have some legitimate concerns about not wanting to send your child to a residential school. But in the long run, perhaps that is best for your child.

What is your genuine concern? Finances? Letting your child